Sexual Bucket List and National Masturbation Month



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Adult Content .. Penn St officials head to court on perjury charges (Monday, Novermber 7, 2011) …item 2.. Paterno family decries leak of e-mails on Sandusky – The e-mails also would suggest Paterno knew more than he said: (Jul 1, 2012 ) … (Photo credit: marsmet524)


A facebook friend posted this for us all to comment on and I was shocked at myself.  My score on the bucket list is 40 out of 50.  Then I looked at how many of these I have done with SuperGeek (aka the hubby) and I am not so shocked.  We celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary over the weekend.  We also have known each other for almost 30 years.  It would stand to reason that most of these involved him (although I might have knocked a few off the list  during the 7 years that we weren’t dating or married – I hope that he forgives me).




How about you?








  1. Kiss a girl – beyond truth or dare?
  2. Have anal – full on or just a little play?
  3. Have a threesome – him, me and B.O.B?
  4. Engage in group sex – do multiple personalities count?

    Painting by Édouard-Henri Avril: three women a...

    Painting by Édouard-Henri Avril: three women and one man having a foursome. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  5. Have phone sex – who has phone sex? It’s Skype or nothing, baby!
  6. Masturbate – 99% have and the other 1% are lying, aren’t they?
  7. Use a vibrator – See B.O.B
  8. Use a sex toy on someone else – See B.O.B and associated his and hers toys.
  9. Be tied up – am currently in the market for the ideal headboard to continue this practice.
  10. Tie someone up – I did let him out of the cupboard eventually.
  11. Have sex in a public space – Ah, the stories those spaces could tell.
  12. Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count) – intentionally or accidentally?
  13. Sex in a car – Oh, the Austin Cambridge was a great for car sex.

    English: 1962 Austin Cambridge Sedan Photo by ...

    English: 1962 Austin Cambridge Sedan Photo by Sandro Menzel (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  14. Sex at a drive-in – this one is difficult because they don’t really exist in my part of the world.
  15. Mile-high club – those little cupboard sized toilet’s are a bitch for access.
  16. Sex with a stranger – well, he wasn’t a stranger by the time we finished.
  17. One-night stand – see above.
  18. Married sex (the best kind, in my opinion) – yes, but only with my husband.
  19. Sex on a boat – which is fine if said boat is anchored but a real bitch if it is small and moving in open sea.
  20. Sex in a body of water – well, eventually we had to get off the boat…
  21. Light spanking – I was a very naughty girl
  22. Read erotica – what? Are you kidding? I would never read that filth!! 😉
  23. Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game – how about strip Trivial Pursuit?
  24. Sex in the shower – sometimes it is the only way to ensure that you are thoroughly clean.
  25. Sex standing up against a wall – see shower.
  26. Sex with no kissing – morning breath, ugh!
  27. Sex in the pitch black – quite often the only way to get the deed done.
  28. Sex in the broad daylight Is the Pope Catholic?
  29. Making out with no sex long after you’re no longer a virgin – also called Coitus Interruptus or kids!
  30. Sex in a tent in the wilderness – define wilderness. Camping ground by the beach in the middle of a tropical cyclone?
  31. Watch porn together How else was I going to educate him on Manuel Ferrara?
  32. Watch porn alone – How do you think I learned about Manual Ferrara
  33. Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms You know, once you get on a roll…
  34. Sex on the beach – yes, and never again. Sand in places where it should never be allowed to go.
  35. Blindfolds – Do paper bags count? Seriously, a little sensory deprivation is great.
  36. Using ice sexually – We all saw 9 1/2 weeks, didn’t we?





  1. Sexual role play Given I spend half my life being another person I would say that qualifies.
  2. Whipped cream – See 9 1/2 weeks comment.
  3. La Perla lingerie sex – not sure about my access to the brand at this end of the world but I have some very nice lingerie that are other brand names.
  4. Frederick’s of Hollywood lingerie sex – see above
  5. Sex with someone much older – define older.
  6. Sex with someone younger (legal!) – mmm, that would be telling.
  7. Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner – I live in a foreign country but playing strictly by the rules of this one….yes.
  8. A quickie in a skirt – often
  9. A longie in the rain – inside or outside? Inside yes, outside, don’t think so.
  10. Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you – and you know that moment when you realize that you haven’t gone unnoticed?
  11. Feather ticklers – see blindfold
  12. Sex while “altered” whether by alcohol or something else – oh, my word…
  13. Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone God, I wish. That only happens in books, doesn’t it?
  14. Silent sex in a full house – again, KIDS!


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Mia Chapter 15: Distance

Mia Chapter 15: Distance…Read More Here

As afternoon approaches a truckload of flowers arrive with the instruction to place them in the boat house. The same boat house that looks like someone set off an orgy-bomb in it. The one that, with all the other things that have had to happen today, I haven’t had a chance to clean up. When I phone Christian to check the arrangements in the vain hope that the boat house option was about storage and not a full on romantic tryst he balls me out about being obstructive. As the line goes dead I place my phone on the lawn in front of me and begin to manically jump and dance around it giving it the finger while I quietly and intensively use the in-out word translated into every language I speak – and a few that I don’t. Gretchen is sweeping up the back patio and watching me with her head tilted to one side. Oh, who the hell cares what the hired help thinks.


My Bucket List – A Blogasmic Challenge



Please allow me to introduce you to Dana.  She is an incredibly brave young woman who took a leap of faith in 2011 and decided to follow her dream to become a professional writer.  When I grow up I want to be just like her.

This is Dana’s book.

The list is a combination of the unique steps that have formed my career and bolstered my creativity, and the things I haven’t yet had a chance to try. The book offers some conventional and some unconventional steps on the path through a writer’s life, why they matter, and advice for getting started.

Dana asked anyone who wanted to be involved to join her in writing their own bucket list.  There are two days to go in this blog challenge and I have been procrastinating.  So that goes up on my bucket list first – STOP PROCRASTINATING AND JUST DO IT!

What am I going to cross off my Bucket List in 2013?

I’d like to say I will leap out of a plane and write about it but quite frankly that is never going to happen due to my unreasonable fear of heights and small planes.  So this is what I will do….

1. Be A Whore – Make A Splash

As an academic in social sciences and humanities, I would be lucky if my work is read by more than a dozen people and most of those are down my corridor and read it because they had to (I may have been holding them down and force feeding them M & Ms at the time).  When I published my thesis as a book I sold three copies – two because I made the university library purchase them and the other my dad bought.  He’s still trying to get the money out of me.  My bosses bang on about impact factors but the truth is even if you make it to an A-star journal you might be lucky to get cited half a dozen times.

As Sasha Cameron, dynamic and vaguely interesting perpetrator of fan fiction, curator of fiftiness for the greysessed and blogasm artiste extraordinaire – impact factor has taken on a whole new dimension.  I’ve only been at this blogging thing since November 2012.  I created Sasha in October so that she could play in the fan fic world.  Since then she/I have just broken the 21K view barrier on the blog and reached the 60K mark on, so I am claiming that as a pretty big splash.  Look at what I have to compare it to.  Of course, I am not sure if it is a smart career move to put tags like ‘do my tits look big in this?’ on my next academic article.

2. Social Media – Work The F*#k Out of It

As an academic I spend thousands of dollars of my own money each year plugging my work at conferences where maybe ten people are in the room during my session and two of those give me their details with a promise to call.  They never do.  I feel so used.

In her short existence, Sasha has gained 90+ blog followers, 110 facebook friends, about the same number of goodread friends, 93 pinterest followers and over 600 twitter followers.  She belongs to Linked In, several readers groups, a number of facebook groups.  She is a social media whore and loving it!  Her mother would not approve.

Social media is the darndest thing.  There are a lot of warnings and disclaimers that go with it but since Sasha started showing me how it is done I can see why people want to live their lives out loud and on line. My bucket list aim is to take some of what I have learned in the blogosphere as Sasha and apply it to my academic career. And of course, nurture all that hard work that Sasha has put into whoring herself about the blogosphere.

3. Finish Shit

Part of being a  successful  mediocre writer/artist/social media whore is having the product or service to put out    sell  offer the world.  Up until now I have been stalling, in both my academic work as well as that long held desire to be a writer that I kept trotting out at dinner parties – “yes, one day I hope to write my own [insert genre here] book”.

As I read the other day on Kristen Lamb’s blog – perfectionists don’t win, finishers do.  So I am going to finish shit.  All over the place.  Great big dumps of completed crap wherever I can.  Then I will worry about how to shape it into some semblance perfect.  If EL James that artist bloke can get millions of dollars and a movie deal thousands of dollars for writing FSoG to create his shit art installation then I can at least get one original fiction book published by the end of the year.  Right?


There are at least a dozen people who are rolling their eyes right now because they know me well.  I’m hoping they can see their way to picking up their pom poms and cheering me on instead.


This leap into fan fiction/blogging has been the most wonderful experience of all.  Without it I would not have believed that I could actually do any of this.  So I will nurture the muse and my new writing/reading friendships above all in 2013.

A few of you stop by from time to time and tell me your thoughts.  But I am going to ask you all – just this once – if you are reading this blog post, if you have had a nice blogasm with me, please, take a moment to tell me about yourself. I promise not to be that chick who virtually stalks you and  leaves text messages on your phone that say ‘let’s get together sometime’.

Love and good times,

Sasha xox

Creating Kate

Book 2: Creating Kate  is finally underway with the first two chapters being posted overnight.  I know, I know, it’s a pretty naff title but I am sticking with a theme here.  Not a great one, I grant you, but….  As always I am looking for the perfect playlist to compliment each chapter and this often slows down the creative process.

The aspect of this I find overwhelming is the email traffic that ensues as people who were prepared to follow Investing Elliot jump on board often bringing new fans and followers.  Does anyone else find this process addictive?  I seem to have the stats page permanently open on my iPad so that I can check the graphs.  I have to own up to only being on since October so my addiction may be a little passe for most of you out there.  SuperGeek is certainly hoping that it will wear off as I sit in bed on a Saturday morning with my laptop on, writing this blog and monitoring the iPad at the same time.

Read the rest of this post in Musings – FanFic: How do I love thee?


Sasha xox